About making friends through fandom

[alasse_irena]

I know a lot of people, both here and on Tumblr (and in other spheres, I guess), who have made close friends through online fandom.

I am interested, for Reasons, in hearing something about how you made these friendships, or, if you've never made a close friendship online, if you have any thoughts about why not? (Whether that's why you didn't seek them out in the first place, or why they never really clicked for you.)

I am very interested in online social processes. Come talk in my comments about how you make friends!

Comments

[ayebydan]

Each time the friendship has come down to both parties talking about their personal lives. I'm a pretty .....idk, caring/open/trying person? So often I will send a pm if I see a person in crises and just listen. So many friendships have been built that way. PMs, lead to Emails, Emails lead to phone numbers ect. I tend to find that fandom based journals or ones not updated often don't tend to cultivate the same sort of relationships.

[alasse_irena]

There's definitely a sort of aspect with journalling where you start to feel that you know people you've followed for a while, even if you don't talk or interact much, because you have kind of...passively shared a bunch of experiences with them. I can see why solely fandom journals don't have the same effect. Although I guess being a fandom journal gives someone interested in chatting to you an easy in, because it's a very obvious common interest...